This is the third and final installment in a 3-part series of letters that I wrote to my past, future and present.

I’ve got a new, completely different series coming out next month. Something that’s less introspective, but absolutely fascinates me.

Until then, here’s my final letter: to the day at hand.

Dear Present,

I saved the best for last.

This is surprisingly the most difficult letter to write. I’ve been sat here for a few minutes pondering why.

I think it’s because everything falls on your shoulders, my friend.

The past is unchangeable and the future is intangible, the only self that has any real responsibility is you. I know, the dreaded ‘R’ word. The onus to act is completely on yourself. It’s daunting.

It’s up to you to break the burdens of bad cycles and self-destructive behaviour that were created in the days gone by. You also need to see their good work through to completion. As for the days to come, though painfully cliché, they are whatever you make them.

I think that’s one of the scariest things about growing up. Your life is in your own hands. Simultaneously, it is also one of the most liberating things about adulthood.

Anyway, what can I say to you? After all, you are me and I am you. If you need help, that means I need help; so how am I in any position to give you instructions or advice?

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Okay, I think I’ve got something to say. A brief word of wisdom I know you already know, but a reminder never hurts.

Update your toolbox (and keep updating it)

At 19, while living as a struggling student, managing to assemble a 2m tall bookshelf with only a dumbbell and knife is quite impressive. At 23, when you are still trying to use the same equipment in various DIY projects, you come to realise that they aren’t the most effective tools. (It is also slightly pitiful.) A dumbbell and knife are far less efficient than a hammer and screwdriver. In addition to this, their improper use compromises their designed function.

From the above, I am sure you can extrapolate a metaphor about life and learning to equip yourself with the right tools (whether it be knowledge, resources or people) for different situations.

It is also important to note that these tools need to evolve over time as you grow and your needs change. Something that serves you well in one season of life, may be ill-suited in another season.

You need to be aware that, though you are constantly in the present, your present self is not constant. The world is frustratingly transient and society, surroundings and self are forever in flux. Thus, the equipment you use to navigate it cannot be fixed.

A dumbbell and knife can only be used for so long.

Hopefully the words above will be of some help as you carry on bridging the gap between the past and future.

Continue to use the yesterdays to help inform the tomorrows (but not define them) and keep working on making small daily steps to establish your desired trajectory.

Also, make sure to have some fun and find joy in everything you do.

It is not about making promises to be perfect, but rather, continually pursuing progress.

I have faith in you.

Much love,

Former Present (now Past)